Posts tagged ‘marriage’

January 4, 2009

Writer’s Block: Church and State

I don’t think that the government should interfere with polygamist marriages – the same way I don’t think they should make same sex marriages illegal. As long as everyone is consenting to it and truly wants it, then the government should not interfere. That doesn’t mean I want to be in a polygamist marriage or that I would have to be. It wouldn’t invalidate monogamist relationships. If it works for someone else, then let them be I say. It’s also interfering with their religion, if it’s done for a religious reason. Whether or not you agree, if that’s what they truly believe, since it’s not hurting anyone else if they are all consenting and agreeing to it, then I say it’s fine. Of course, there is the issue of children. People will debate whether or not it’s good to raise children in that environment. But the reality is, people are going to do it anyway. They’ll either move to Utah (where I don’t believe it’s legal, but seems to be decriminalized) or be unofficially married – the same way that gay people are still partners if they live in a state that doesn’t recognize same sex marriages.

I emphasize that everyone should be consenting. If someone is a bigamist in the sense that he leaves his wife in the middle of the night, disappears with no contact, is still married but then marries someone else, that’s not consenting obviously, so that should be illegal.

I know the recent news about the polygamist compounds makes many people think it should be illegal. And I think what they are accused of is wrong. But not all polygamists live in compounds like that.

We can also debate how much rights, tax breaks, health benefits, etc. that everyone would get in a marriage like that. And that’s fine. But as far as whether or not the government should say that they should not be married at all, I don’t think they should.

There is part of me that says, that type of marriage just doesn’t seem right and if the government doesn’t make it illegal, then it will seem like it’s normal and there’s nothing wrong with it. But the government also doesn’t require you to know someone for a certain amount of time. I could meet you tonight in Vegas and get married. It’s legal, but most people still don’t think it’s "right" or "normal." The government doesn’t say that you shouldn’t be married because you’ve broken up 38 times. It doesn’t say that you verbally abuse your significant other, so you shouldn’t be married, either. So if more than 2 adults want to marry each other, whether it’s a healthy relationship or not, the government shouldn’t be the one to decide.