Posts tagged ‘close call’

July 16, 2007

Dungeons and Dragon Players Neglect Their Children

From http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070716/ap_on_re_us/neglect_internet_addiction

Nev. couple blame Internet for neglect
Mon Jul 16, 8:09 AM ET
A couple who authorities say were so obsessed with the Internet and video games that they left their babies starving and suffering other health problems have pleaded guilty to child neglect.

The children of Michael and Iana Straw, a boy age 22 months and a girl age 11 months, were severely malnourished and near death last month when doctors saw them after social workers took them to a hospital, authorities said. Both children are doing well and gaining weight in foster care, prosecutor Kelli Ann Viloria told the Reno Gazette-Journal.

Michael Straw, 25, and Iana Straw, 23, pleaded guilty Friday to two counts each of child neglect. Each faces a maximum 12-year prison sentence.

Viloria said the Reno couple were too distracted by online video games, mainly the fantasy role-playing “Dungeons & Dragons” series, to give their children proper care.

“They had food; they just chose not to give it to their kids because they were too busy playing video games,” Viloria told the Reno Gazette-Journal.

Police said hospital staff had to shave the head of the girl because her hair was matted with cat urine. The 10-pound girl also had a mouth infection, dry skin and severe dehydration.

Her brother had to be treated for starvation and a genital infection. His lack of muscle development caused him difficulty in walking, investigators said.

The Straws have been given public defenders. Jeremy Bosler, head of the county public defender’s office, declined to comment to The Associated Press on Saturday.

Michael Straw is an unemployed cashier, and his wife worked for a temporary staffing agency doing warehouse work, according to court records. He received a $50,000 inheritance that he spent on computer equipment and a large plasma television, authorities said.

While child abuse because of drug addiction is common, abuse rooted in video game addiction is rare, Viloria said.

Last month, experts at an American Medical Association meeting backed away from a proposal to designate video game addiction as a mental disorder, saying it had to be studied further. Some said the issue is like alcoholism, while others said there was no concrete evidence it’s a psychological disease.

Patrick Killen, spokesman for Nevada Child Abuse Prevention, said video game addiction’s correlation to child abuse is “a new spin on an old problem.”

“As we become more technologically advanced, there’s more distractions,” Killen said. “It’s easy for someone to get addicted to something and neglect their children. Whether it’s video games or meth, it’s a serious issue, and (we) need to become more aware of it.”

My thoughts: It’s not the internet’s fault they were bad parents. It’s their own fault. Even if they are truly addicted to it, it didn’t make them do it. Many things have the potential to become addictive. Someone who was obsessed with playing baseball could blame the sport for why they were a bad parent and it would sound ridiculous as well. If this article is accurate, then these parents are horrible. No one is perfect, but to let your own children almost die is wrong.

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February 9, 2007

Eyes, veins, and ghost veins

Original entries and comments: http://cherryteresa.greatestjournal.com/2007/02/09/

I went to the eye doctor’s after work yesterday for an exam and to get more contacts and glasses. I learned something almost disturbing about my eyes. My vision is really bad and I have a high prescription. That was no surprise. But apparently with the high prescription I have, it is not recommended that I wear the type of colored contacts I was wearing. The last I doctor I went to apparently should have never prescribed them for me. Because of my wearing these thicker lenses that aren’t as breathable, I’ve grown all these veins in my eyes! He said that growing veins is a good thing for any part of the body except the eyes. And he said over time it could lead to blindness. Oh my goodness!
He prescribed me Acuvue Oasis lenses. And the commercials are right; they do feel a lot better on the eyes. But he said the reason he was putting me in the Oasis lenses is because they’re supposed to be healthier for the eyes and they can breathe better. I was able to take a trial pair home and will get the rest in a week or two.
I asked him if the veins situation would get better or if I was stuck with all these extra veins. He said it usually improves. But what might happen is that I could get what he called “ghost veins”. Veins that aren’t active but still exist. The blood just doesn’t go there anymore. Weird! But he said that’s a lot better than the way things are now.
I got these cool glasses. They are rectangular and dark violet. They have these cool rhinestones on the sides. I almost got a pair of these red cat eyes but I realize the last pair of glasses I had were burgundy cat eyes with rhinestones on the side, so these would be the similar to my last pair but almost like a step down. Plus, when I got the cat eyes, not that many people had them then compared to now. Not that I really care that. A lot of people have rectangular lenses. Anyway, the new glasses will take about 2 weeks for me to get them. I want them now because my other glasses are broken. But at least I have the more comfortable contacts, so I can deal. I’ll post pictures of the new glasses after I get them.
Anyway, my advice to anyone with horrible vision is not to get colored contacts. That is, unless they invent better contacts. I just hope they don’t find out ten years from now that Oasis gives you cancer or something.

September 26, 2006

What I’ve been up to lately…

Original entry and comments: http://cherryteresa.greatestjournal.com/2006/09/26/

Well, surprisingly some people actually still check this journal to see if I update it. Due to some personal issues, I don’t have the internet at my apartment for the time being and haven’t for the past few months. But I do have internet access elsewhere so I will still update this from time to time. Just not as much as before. Thanks to those who do actually take the time to read my blog! 🙂

Let me just take a minute to answer some questions I’ve been getting a lot from people to clear some things up.

First of all, my health much better. I’m still not completely well and according to my doctors I probably won’t ever be well until I hit menopause – then I will have a whole host of other issues, of course! But compared to how I was before my second surgery, I feel like a million bucks. Now if only I could feel like I used to a couple years ago before all of this got really bad, I’d feel like a billion bucks. But you know, I shouldn’t complain because there are many people who have worse things they are going through. I just started being able to work again a couple months ago, which is something I couldn’t do before – not even a non-physical desk job. But now I can and I am and I feel like my life is starting to get back into a routine again.

My health still is up and down and at this point there is no way that I can commit to being in any type of serious band that plays out regularly, records, and all that good stuff. It’s just hard to predict how I’ll be feeling on a given day and I still have to go to pain management once a month along with other doctors every couple of months. The pain has only reduced it hasn’t gone away like I wish it would. It does break my heart that I am getting older and while time is slipping away, I can only stand back and be an observer. (Well, I’m not old. I’m turning 25 on October 25th, but these days I’m considered to have just a little bit of time left in the music business).

I really want to be out there in the music scene once again. And I feel soo weird just having a day job. Before this, I had a job with either: a band and/or a boyfriend and/or school and/or other commitments or lessons. But I just have a job now and that’s how a lot of people live their lives. And I’m not knocking those people but I don’t know how they do it! I have been so stressed out. Yes, that’s right – not having enough things to do makes me stress out. I can’t just sit still but I really have to for once in my life. For other people, this would be joyous and relaxing but not for me.
I’m so bored! Now I think I know why some people are so obsessed with being in a relationship and aren’t comfortable being single even for a minute. They end up with someone not so great because they think that’s better than being single, which isn’t good. But that’s a whole other story for another time…

As of a few weeks ago I’ve started going back out again and it feels great to see everyone again and see a lot of the bands in this area that I’ve grown to love. It has been weird just going to a show. With no flyers to hand out, no show dates to push on people, with no tickets to sell nor a CD to let people know about. You’d think that would feel great and relaxing. It is for the first few minutes. Just being able to: watch a band’s set, listen to their songs, and not worry about your own upcoming show. But when you see someone else out there promoting their band you just really miss your old life. At least that’s how it is for me.

And there is something else that happened that I don’t even like to admit. It makes me so sad! I had to sell my Yamaha S-80 and my Alesis amp. I didn’t want to, of course. It was either sell those or get evicted. If I got evicted, I’d end up having no place to put the keyboard anyway, so if I didn’t sell them I’d be homeless and and have no keyboard. So I had to sell it. With all the medical debt that I have now from being sick and on top of that not being able to work for about a year, it’s going to take me forever to save up enough money for a new keyboard. I still practice and write on my really crappy Kawaii keyboard. It’s better than nothing but it only has like three octaves, with voices that aren’t great, a bad feel to it, and I couldn’t ever use it to perform or even really jam out unless it was with acoustic instruments. I can’t hook it up to an amp (even if I still had an amp but I don’t even have that anymore!)

So basically to sum up the answers to the questions I’m getting a lot… Yes I’m a lot better but I’m still not “well”. And yes I’m still making music. I never quit. I was forced to be on a hiatus. I’m just not out there like I was before. But I hope and I am fighting to come back again when things get better. I have to get a lot better healthwise and if that happens then I still will be saving up to buy my equipment again. I just have to be patient. I am not a patient person so it’s going to be tough.

Please keep your emails coming. I love hearing from everyone.

Here is something random I found on a friend’s Myspace page.